Strictly out of luck, I bought a pair of headphones (from groupon of all places) model name: musicians choice, Company: able planet. Here is the link for them on amazon. http://www.amazon.com/Able-Planet-Musicians-Headphone-Metallic/dp/B009XHW31K/ref=sr_1_2?s=electronics&ie=UTF8&qid=1371136988&sr=1-2&keywords=able+planet+musicians+choice
They are over the ear (my preference) and reasonably priced (40$ (I got mine for 20$ on group on)) Most importantly, they sound great. (better than ipod headphones, better than phillips, better than JVC. The sound is par with bose earbuds, but has less quality than bose over the ear headphones.
What I think is unique about them, is that the cord is separate from the speaker/headphone portion, but contains a headphone socket, in the right earpeice for the cord. The cord that comes in the box with them has a volume control dial on it (analog I believe) which also works fabulously.
The volume control works with my android motorola cell phone, ipod, macbook, dell, etc. You can buy auxillary (heaphone jack, (TRS connector)) extension cords at Radioshack or wherever, which sometimes have a romote control on them. You would just need to find 1 extension cord that has a remote for apple software, and 1 that has a remote for (all) other software. (I wish there was a 'rolling eyes' emoticon).
Hopefully, this a somewhat managable solution to your problem. I'd love to hear an update.